[Blog] Waiting NOT in vain

When you're a 33-year old woman, single and working your ass out, people will ask you if you ever have a plan of getting married or worse, if you're gay. Either way, I wouldn't want to answer any of them. But truly, I'm not worried because God has His plan for me.

Yesterday morning, I was watching a Filipino flick and was totally glued to the tube. However shallow the plot was, I couldn't care coz I was enjoying it. Hey, don't laugh at me but there was a realization I got from it. It was a story of a 30-year old woman who was in dire search for someone to marry after a surprise break-up in front of their house with her boyfriend-catching-his-time-before-going-to-work and after seeing all of her friends getting married. In the movie, she has met some bad guys but of course it ended with a happy ever after. In it, there weren't good display of what a woman should be like to the extent that it looked cheapo. Along the way I asked myself, am I feeling like that? Do I act like that?


Many times in my 33 years that I tried creating that perfect blueprint of my love life. I fell in and out of love several times. Broke theirs and my heart. Engaged and disengaged. And now, I'm still single.

Yes, I am single and am not seeing someone. I have this virtual check list that has everything that I am looking for in a man and a relationship. Did I ever worry? Yes, I did but look at Matthew 6:27 "Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?" Yeah, why should I worry when God knows His plans for me - to prosper me and not to harm me, plans to give me hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11)


Yesterday afternoon, in between my favorite chore, I checked on a magazine show where a celeb was being interviewed after a hurtful break up with her short lived marriage. She had put herself to the limelight while her marital demise on spotlight. I sympathize with her and totally agree that women should stand tall after a terrible fall. This woman had been in search for a happy ending but unlike the woman in the movie, hers was not a happy ending. Was I ever in the zone of desperation that I will get in a relationship with just anyone? Did I ever compromise my standard and values just to update my Facebook status?

If you know and believe that He and His plans are trustworthy, you will never end up with such tragedy. I do not make fun of anyone's bad situation but the bottom line - you can never rush love and you should never go ahead of God's plans. He is always on time - never late, never ahead of us. The problem is that we love what He has in His hands for us but we do not trust His calendar. Learn to wait patiently til His proper time comes. Waiting should never slow us down; it should never preempt what we're supposed to do, instead, we must actively wait. We do what we are supposed to do, bloom where you are planted and excel in everything that's on hand. Doing so, there will never come a day that you say you regret that you waited. Waiting on the Lord is never in vain when your trust is on Him...and those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. (Isaiah 40:31)

That's a promise.